8 Sibling Rivalry Poses That Turn Fights Into Epic Photoshoots

Is there any rivalry stronger than a sibling rivalry? Arguments, debates, and decade-long fights are often the fabric of family bonding, and can all become fun poses for your sibling photoshoots.

The best thing about sibling rivalry photoshoots is that, because siblings actually really love each other, you can have as much fun as you like with the faux fights and frustration.

The use of facial expressions, props, and different seating and standing positions can help you showcase the underlying irritation that drives many sibling relationships.

In this guide, I’m going to highlight eight of my favorite sibling rivalry poses and how you can use them to create epic photoshoots with siblings of all ages.

Why Sibling Rivalry Makes Great Photos

The most important thing to realize about sibling fights is that they’re never (or rarely) long-lasting.

You’re more likely to witness silly scuffles and squabbles as a family photographer than you are to see a genuine falling out. After all, siblings who don’t speak to each other aren’t likely to come to a photoshoot together.

Sibling rivalry poses should show off in-jokes, playful pranks, or reminders of fights long past. The last thing you want to do is bring up fresh hurts, as these could undermine the success of the photoshoot and upset your subjects.

With that in mind, encourage gentle ribbing and mockery, and poses that show off fake outrage and anger. When you get this right, sibling rivalry photos are some of the most fun, candid family photos you can take.

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1. Back-to-Back

When you’ve had enough and you don’t have anything else to say, it’s time to turn your back on your rival. That’s what this pose says, loud and clear.

Have your subjects stand back-to-back, and, if possible, try to make them look a little mad about the situation.

You can choose to have them looking directly to the left and right, which gives the photo a nice symmetry. However, I like to tilt them slightly toward the camera, which gives the impression that each one is trying to get the sympathy of the viewer.

Consider your outfit choices for this pose. You could get both siblings in something very similar or opt for completely different outfits to highlight their differences.

Complete the pose with folded arms and a slight slump of the shoulders to showcase the sulkiness within the situation.

Add props if you like. A favorite toy, book, or blanket works for kids, while grown-up siblings could be holding a drink or a bag.

2. I’m Not Listening

Do siblings ever really listen to each other? Of course, they do – when it matters. But this pose is about having some fun with the idea that siblings don’t want to listen to each other’s day-to-day chattering.

Have one subject animatedly talking to the other. Work in hand gestures to emphasize how important it is that they convey their point.

Get the other sibling to put their fingers in their ears or their hands over their ears. For their facial expression, you can either have them look innocently upwards, or if they’re younger, squeezing their eyes shut can be very cute.

Have the “not listening” sibling either sitting or looking away to strike a deeper contrast with the standing speaker.

A fun way I like to work this pose is to have one subject a little behind the other and take two shots, one where the person at the front is in focus and one where the other sibling is more sharply defined.

You can put both resulting images side by side as a nice keepsake. It’s also a great pose for parent-child photoshoots, especially with teens.

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3. Please Be My Friend

After a fight, sometimes all you want to do is make up. A pose that shows one sibling extending the olive branch is a sweet way to show that all rivalries come to an end.

This pose works really well with both adults and children. For smaller children, props can help; for example, a toddler could be handing a slightly older sibling a favorite toy or a flower for a truly heartstring-pulling moment.

Positioning your subjects is key to the success of this shot. Because this idea is about siblings trying to find common ground, try to have your subjects at a similar height, or both standing or sitting.

Have one sibling reach out, as if to shake hands or put a hand on their arm. The other sibling can be looking away, as if undecided on the apology, or looking back at the other over their shoulder.

Bright colors can help show that this is a fraught moment. Consider a strong contrast between the color of the clothes the subjects are wearing and the background.

You should end up with a heartfelt moment that still emphasizes the underlying fight, with a little humor to make the photo all the more striking.

4. What Did You Do?

The age-old sibling disagreement: I know you did something, but I don’t know what! This pose highlights the “innocence” of the accused party and the frustration of the accusing, often older sibling.

There are plenty of ways to set up this pose. Whoever is the “bigger” sibling should, ideally, be set higher or taller in the frame.

Consider having the younger sibling or whoever is being “told off” sitting down, so that they appear smaller and caught in the act. Get them to look a little sad or maybe mischievous.

The impression you’re going for is that they know they’ve done something, but they’re trying to hide it from the other sibling.

Props can really help in this pose. I encourage younger subjects to bring a favorite teddy or other plush to cuddle or hang onto tightly.

This pose isn’t as popular for adults, but you can make it work. Consider having one sibling seemingly sneaking something out of the other’s purse or wallet, or taking a peek at their phone.

The older sibling should be looming, filling half the frame, and have a cross or questioning look on their face.

The result? A timeless capture of mischief in action.

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5. Argh! You Don’t Get Me!

The root of many rivalries is that one party simply doesn’t understand the other. This is often particularly true for siblings.

Have your subjects side by side, either facing forward or slightly to the side. Get them to throw their hands up in frustration.

Expressions should be frustrated or mildly angry. You don’t want full-on rage for this; it’s about the irritation of ongoing miscommunication.

I don’t find props necessary for this type of pose, but you could perhaps have one or both of your subjects tearing up paper or something else that showcases frustration.

Where there’s more than one sibling, get them to stand in a semi-circle with some facing forward and others slightly to the side.

Unsure how to get them to show that frustration on their face? Ask their least favorite song and play it over and over until they throw their hands up in actual frustration.

You’ll end up with a photo packed with mock disapproval that belies the love and care that underlie this rivalry. A great pose for teens.

6. Don’t Pull My Hair!

Sometimes, sibling rivalry gets physical. Actual fights between brothers and sisters are common, and if your subjects are safely able to do so (and not in the midst of a real fight), you can draw on this for some dynamic poses.

If you’re working with children, always check with the parents or caretakers before you get them to do anything even remotely violent.

Once you have that safely checked, pose your subjects with the smaller sibling pulling the larger sibling’s hair. It works best this way, as having the larger sibling do the pulling just looks like bullying, which isn’t a fun photo.

Facial expressions can make or break this pose. I encourage the younger sibling to look mad or frustrated. The older one should scrunch their face as if in pain.

Alternatively, getting both kids to yell as you take this shot can add some really great energy.

7. The Serious Debate

For siblings who take everything way too seriously, this pose can add some levity and bring a smile to their faces.

It’s a great pose for adult siblings who can’t agree on anything and who are happy to bring that vibe to their family photoshoot.

Get both siblings to sit at a table, either opposite each other or side by side. If they’re side by side, get them to lean in as if they’re absolutely hammering a point home in an argument.

Hand gestures are critical to this one. The “you know what I’m talking about” hands out works well, as does banging a fist onto a flat palm.

Any gestures or facial expressions that say, “I’m right, and you know it,” will result in a fun photo that epitomizes the never-ending feud between loving siblings who are way too similar to each other.

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8. I’m Not Doing It

The dynamic between many siblings is one of trying to get the other to do something they really don’t want to do. This pose captures that energy.

I find that this pose is funnier when the “bossy” sibling is the shorter or younger one, because it’s an unexpected dynamic.

Get that sibling to either stand to the side or slightly behind the other. As you take the shot, they need to be doing a combination of shouting, frowning, and gesturing.

The other sibling can be facing forward, with a “Why me?” expression. Alternatively, they can be looking at the floor in resignation or crossing their arms in a “No way” gesture.

Props can be fun for this pose. Consider the bossier sibling having a megaphone and the other holding a stop sign for a more colorful and interesting image.

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Top Tips for Sibling Rivalry Photoshoots

No one knows their siblings better than each other. Leverage that family knowledge to find out what sort of petty squabbles and prank-type energy they can bring to the photoshoot.

For kids, ask the parents if there are any ongoing arguments or disagreements that you can bring up without causing problems. You can also suggest that they bring their favorite toys and other props to help bring these rivalries to life on camera.

Other tips include:

• Give regular reminders that this is all in fun.
• Don’t try to needle siblings into a real fight just to get an authentic emotion.
• If siblings feel uncomfortable discussing certain disagreements, don’t push it. Just move on.
• Take regular breaks, especially if emotions are running high.
• For kids, allow the parents to be close by in case it all gets a little too real and soothing cuddles are needed.
• Encourage parents to allow kids to do something fun together after the shoot to remind them that they really do love each other.

Remember to consider attire before the photoshoot. I often like to get siblings in very similar clothes, or at least similar colors, then create contrasting backgrounds to highlight how close they are despite the apparent sibling fight that’s happening on camera.

Final Thoughts

Get creative and see what other poses you can come up with. Many siblings will have their own ideas based on past fights and falling out.

I’ve had families turn up to shoots wanting to reenact pranks and even stage mock fistfights. But as long as everyone is safe and sensible and OK with the scenario, there’s no reason why you can’t lean into these ideas.

Sibling rivalry can turn fights into family photos they’ll treasure forever. These types of shots only work because sibling love is real and deep, and that’s why they can lean into these frustrated moments with humor and levity.